Question
What do the scholars of the Dīn and muftīs of the Sacred Law state regarding the following issue: I live in Belgium and I got married seven months ago, and so far my wife has not yet moved in with me. As well as this, there is also of issue of there being women at my workplace who constantly flirt with me. So, am I allowed to have intercourse with my wife, even though she actually lives in Belgium? Questioner: Brother from Belgium
Answer
بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم
الجواب بعون الملک الوھاب اللھم ھدایۃ الحق والصواب
There is no problem in having intercourse after has got married before’s wife has moved out of her family home, because she is now your wife and the act of intercourse itself with’s wife is a lawful action. However, in our society, meeting up with’s wife before she has left her family home is not considered being something good, hence should make arrangements for her to move in with yourself i.e. the husband as soon as possible in order to avoid any blame, gibes, scoffing, sneering and pointing of fingers; this will thereby be better for you.
In addition, it is essential that avoids free mixing & talking freely with non-Mahram women, because undoubtedly, having flirtatious conversations with non-Mahram women causing sexual tension between the two is unlawful, and should leave such a job in which it is difficult for to avoid such actions which can lead unlawful intercourse etc. because company has an effect.
The who is worrying now would also remain worried after marriage, because when hasn’t even yet felt the particular desire being discussed at hand, then this is the state of such effect, and you are at loss in your current state. So, when a person has tasted sweetness after marriage, then this feeling won’t decrease; rather, it will increase, which is apparent to every sane person. Thus, should find another job in which the aforementioned dangers do not exist.
واللہ تعالی اعلم ورسولہ اعلم صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ وسلم
کتبہ ابو الحسن محمد قاسم ضیاء قادری
Answered by Mufti Qasim Zia al-Qadri
Translated by Haider Ali
Read the original Urdu answer here: [Q-ID0776] Can I have sexual relations with my wife before she has officially moved in with me / ‘rukhsati’?
Published by the Dar-ul-Ifta of Akhuwat-e-Islami as Q-ID0776. Read it on Akhuwat-e-Islami